Thursday, April 18, 2013

Continuing Challenges in Online Autistic Communication


Helping Others Understand Me Better:

                                                  


If I had all the answers, I would not pursue brain storming sessions with others.

I found the low prevalence of ASD, in door-to-door Scans in Amish Counties, intriguing since about a half a year ago, when I read the study. I do not claim to come close to know all the reasons and I do not experience Autism the way many others do as currently assessed by DSMIV criteria.


The person that got me thinking about this before I found the study was a Motorcycle Biker and Deep Thinker that often visits this site. He Brain storms better than any person I have come across in writing. His user name is [name redacted].

I suspect there are many more on this site. That hypothesis has already been confirmed, at least for me.

Yes, you are correct, this issue is much more complicated than social roles and social stimulus; however, that was a point I felt I could start on that everyone could agree on. Other than that, I am not sure how many more words or how many more ways I can find to confirm that yes I do realize I am not a good social communicator nor am I usually artful in the use of "colloquial terms".

"What you See is What you Get", and in my case it is "more or less" an "advanced form of Echolalia", mixed with "Google" and "a sprinkle" of "Human Algorithm" that comes from every source imaginable, at least for me.

Some of those "colloquial terms", are mine alone, which "in effect" makes them "oxymorons".

In conclusion, it is hard to make a "Human Algorithm" angry.

However, they can learn to say thank you and apologize.

It seems through your written communication I am making you angry from my communication style.

I apologize for that offense not intended. To be as honest as a "human algorithm" can, at least in my case, I have no idea why you continue to seem to be angry from my form of communication here.

Thank you, in advance, for understanding that, if you can.
 




Coming To Understand Others Better:
                                                
                    


 

You are very welcome [name redacted].

I exercised the privilege you have allowed me to like things on your page. In addition, as sometimes happens with RRBI's, once I got started I could not stop. By the time, I got to January, 19th, the "Facebook Algorithm Social Police" told me, "enough you cannot do that anymore".

I do not get very many likes on my pages, and I recognized, oh gosh, this probably is piling up in your notifications 'cause I liked at least 200 items if not 500.

In my journey of "Facebook liking" things on your page in the last three months, and then viewing everything on your page back to when you started I came to some "a-ha moments".

One was an apology I recognized I do you owe you for not thanking you enough and complimented you enough on all the positive things you do on your page.

I suppose part of that was my personal page was completely private and I did not realize that the owner of the page was actually notified of likes.

I think I "Facebook liked" at least 90% of what I saw on your page. I feel bad about that because I didn't know how to put it into words to tell you in the comments, before, and I guess that is the whole purpose behind "likes", in the first place, for people just to show appreciation and thanks, in reciprocal social communication.

I did not understand that until a person asked to be my friend on Facebook.

Additionally, for what ever reason, 99% of the things I remember I disagreed with are gone. What is left is this amazing expression in "Art of Acceptance" of people on the spectrum. It is like the book you illustrated, but it is illustrated with real lives and real stories from people across the spectrum.

There is only one word I can adequately use to describe the feeling it gives me to take the journey from now until the start of your page.





Joy.


I am sorry I was such "a pain in your ***".  In addition, yes I do literally recognize now how much of  "a pain in the ***" I was. Particularly, considering I never let you know how much I liked the positive things on your page.

I want to tell you thank for what you do. However, I also what to sincerely tell you thank you for banning me when you did, because it inspired some spark of creativity in me that I did not have before. I now have a voice of my own, that I never had before. I literally owe that to you.

I understand Facebook better now, and a few people are actually interacting with me. However, it wasn't just the banning, and was the least of what inspired me. It was all those emotional pictures and expressions of humanity on your page that helped me get in touch with something inside me that I had difficulty finding.

It is no wonder you have over 25K likes on your page.

Your friend,
Katie.
                                                    



Two examples of challenging topics in Online Autism Communities in building bridges of communication between people off and on the spectrum linked here in these two discussions:


https://www.facebook.com/thinkingpersonsguidetoautism/posts/530675340307131


https://www.facebook.com/thinkingpersonsguidetoautism/posts/573252269359780


A link to a recent discussion among people on and off the spectrum, ending on 5/15/13, which was particularly challenging in "Reciprocal Social Communication"; the core defined challenge of being on the Spectrum:


https://www.facebook.com/thinkingpersonsguidetoautism/posts/536514663056532




I finally found someone Online who has Actual Effective Answers to improve Online and Offline Reciprocal Social Communication Among People On and Off the Spectrum.

He is also a Champion in providing Actual Effective Answers to Improve Positive Awareness and Acceptance for ALL people on and off the Spectrum.

Bill from the "Autism Discussion" Facebook Page!

He is one of the most "non-biased" people I have come across, On or Off the spectrum, as a 100% Autism Advocate and REAL Ally of Everyone.

Here is the link to his Facebook Page:

https://www.facebook.com/autismdiscussionpage


And here is a link to the Discussion I started on the Wrong Planet website, where I used the metaphor of  "Wired Differently Whisperer", to direct attention to the helpful resources on his Facebook Page. :)

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt231214.html


Autism, the Internet and "Ideological First Identity", a Collection of Thoughts:

http://katiemiaaghogday.blogspot.com/2013/05/autism-internet-and-ideological-first.html







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